During the recent American presidential debate in September, Kamala Harris walked directly across the stage as she approached Donald Trump to shake his hand. She introduced herself and said, “Let’s have a good debate.” to which he replied, “Good to meet you, have fun.”
It was clear he had no intentions of shaking her hand and was caught off guard. He looked uncomfortable, and she gained the upper hand by setting a confident tone for the debate.
She showed that she was there on her own terms and would not be intimidated by his bullying techniques. Although he is taller than she is, she appeared to have gained dominance over him. Now, that’s the power of a handshake.
The history of a handshake dates back to the 5th century of ancient Greece. It began as a gesture to demonstrate that you came in peace and to show others that you were not holding a weapon nor had any ill intentions.
The handshake symbolizes good faith when making a promise, much like a sacred bond.
It’s a sign of peace and used to convey trust and build a deeper connection.
The handshake is body language, a nonverbal form of communication. It is a valuable tool to introduce yourself and a great opportunity to make a positive, lasting impression.
It can convey a lot of information about yourself and the other person. It can reveal whether you are trustworthy, confident, honest, anxious, enthusiastic, or competent, along with how you feel about the other person.
Never underestimate the power of a strong handshake. Here are some do’s and don’ts:
- You should usually be standing up for the handshake.
- Maintain eye contact along with a genuine, warm smile.
- Extend your hand vertically with your thumbs up and fingers out.
- Make full contact with palm to palm, web to web.
- A handshake should last no longer than 2-3 seconds while exchanging a brief greeting.
- Refrain from getting overly excited by shaking hands for a long time.
- Avoid crushing the other person’s hands and cutting off their blood flow; this can be uncomfortable and shows aggression; instead, just be firm.
- Don’t be like a dead fish; a weak and limp handshake conveys no interest or energy, fails to make a connection, and shows low self-esteem.
- Don’t play power games by pulling the other person’s hand in toward you. This shows you want to dominate and control others. Case in point, Donald Trump.
- Sweaty palms are a sign of nervousness; make sure to wipe your hands beforehand.
- Using only a few fingertips barely touching is like the handshake never really happened and is perceived as inefficient and weak; go in for the landing with your entire hand.
- The politician’s handshake is when you cup your hand on top of your other hand. This is sending the message of sincerity and wanting to create a warmer connection.
This time-honoured practice is more than just a common formality or greeting.
It is a way to communicate responsibility, respect, and reinforce your commitment to building a relationship and show courage, gratitude, and a sense of unity.
Whether you are starting a business relationship, sealing the deal, landing the job, congratulating someone, giving your condolences, or simply introducing yourself, become more mindful of your handshake, fully engage yourself, and make it more meaningful.
So, what do you say? Let’s shake on it.
Antoinette Giacobbe M.A.
